Victim Cycle

So this week I was gently told by my husband that I play the part of a victim. He very sweetly pointed this out to me during a very emotional moment.  He wasn't condescending or judgmental. Rather, He spoke to me from a place of love. I knew that he cared and was just being honest with me but for a moment I was upset. 

The enemy likes to take things that other people say to you and twist them into something completely different.

I had started to seeing my interactions with people through a filter. As if everything that they said to me came from a place of not liking me. And when they would say something or do anything that in any way resembled this, it was like a confirmation to this negative spirit and filter that I was looking at our relationship through. This is something that the Lord has spoken to me about multiple times, because it is always relevant. It can be seen in any relationship that I have. Friends, Coworkers, In Laws even my relationship with my husband.



1 Corinthians 13:7
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Matthew 5:43-48 ESV 

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? ...

1 John 4:16 ESV / 187 helpful votes

So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

Romans 12:9-10 ESV / 103 helpful votes

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

1 Peter 4:8 ESV / 79 helpful votes

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.